You can't drive a parked car

Establish my steps and direct them by [means of] Your word.…
—Psalm 119:133

People often ask, "How do I know what God wants me to do with my life?" Some spend many years being totally immobile because they are waiting to hear a voice from heaven telling them what to do. My best advice to anyone in this position is to simply do something. Do what you think God might be calling you to do and if you make a mistake, He will help you correct it. Don't spend your life so afraid of making a mistake that you never try to obey what you believe God has spoken to you.

By Joyce Meyer

I like to say, you can't drive a parked car. You need to be moving if you want God to show you which way to go. He has no need to say to you, "Turn left" if you are not going anywhere. But if you are moving, He can give you directions.

Let me insert a word of wisdom here. There are certainly times when we need to be still, wait on God, pray, and not take immediate action. But that does not apply to every situation. There are times when the only way we can discover God's will is to get moving in a certain direction and let Him speak to us and lead us as we go. If you are going in the wrong direction, He’ll close that door and open another one.

Question: I hate being fat and want to loose weight but my hubby prefers me this way. I need your advice please

Good day confident ladies I was very slim before I got married and over the years plus child bearing I have added serious weight my hubby has never complained but I didn't like it. I didn't do anything about it bcoz I was still bearing children but now I'm done with having kids I have decided to lose the weight tho I know I can't go back to being a size 10 but I want to lose most of the fat.  To my surprise dearest hubby said no, that he likes the big me and that's why he has never complained or asked me to lose weight. I went ahead to register in a gym and  now we are having issues. He wants the fat and I don't, he says I'm more attractive with it bigger boob's and backside but I don't like it I am team slim.  Now my question is 1) should I go ahead and start losing weigh without my husband permission?  2) the verse that says when a woman is married her body is no longer hers, does it mean I don't have a say as to what happens with my body
3) My husband said most women strive to be sexy for their husband and he finds me very sexy so why do I want to spoil that or am I doing it for other men to find me sexy (I know he just said that to get to me as that has never been on my agenda) .
So confident ladies I need your advice should I remain fat for hubby or lose weight and lose his affection.

My Dear sister.
I received your question.
I want you to understand that you have taken a good stand by deciding to watch your weight by caring for your body.
medically speaking, its advisable that excess fat and unnecessary weight be curtailed.
First and foremost; it reduce chances of high blood pressure
Secondly; it reduce possibility of heart failure which can be caused by cholesterol 
Thirdly; you are physically fit for complete daily task.
As for your husband, who want you big and full, its not out of place to desire your spouse and have what you are looking for outside, truly he marry you slim, but taste change, with time, and as a good wife desiring to please your husband should be paramount to your activity, but its not without a boundary. 
its true that bible mention it that, when you marry you submit yourself to another, and two of you lack power over your body, that's christian position.
But there are exceptions where this can be broken,  take for instance , bible say children obey your parent in the lord, does that mean, that if your parent ask you to kill or steal from your neighbor , you must do it?. Absolutely NO!, bible specify obey them in the lord, killing your neighbor is not in lordship of Jesus Christ, if that law can be broken on that ground. relate it to marriage, wife submit your body to your husband in the confine of God's will, adding excess wieght is detrimental to your health, is not in Jesus lordship.
2. The same bible talk about husband love your wife as Christ love the church, the husband should grow to love you for who you are, BEFORE  he marry you  and AFTER marriage,  and that you are not adding weight should not be a reasonable excuse to start flirting around or hate you in quote.
well, its not bad if your husband wish you could be fat, its bad when that wish take half of him, any uncontrolled desire and that my dear sister is a sin. The wish should just remain a wish...
what you need to do is to wisdom and proper communication (bible says a soft answer turneth away wrath..pro 15:1).
Call your husband when is on his nice mood, be very nice in your approach and tell him that you really appreciate his desire not to compromise his marital vow, and his effort to make his wife suit and satisfy him. Appreciate the fact that it is loyalty on his part and love to tell you what he admire outside so he wont go out. 
Understand your husband meant well, so appreciate him, just that he his thinking about what he want. some men will not even complain, they will sheepishly look for the feature and practice extra marital affair . 
Simply tell him the medical implication of been fat, tell him how uneasy fat people live and let him understand  that if this fatness is unease for and it could become an issue, that might generate medical condition as many people suffer, tell him he will have more than what he bargain for, he will begin to help with hospital bill and sorts. 
Moreover , tell him you are not happy been fat, if he really love you, he should care a little about what also make you happy.
And lastly tell him you are not going to drain bout, just that you want to watch your weight and be physically to move your body which is to his own advantage. 
Pray and tell God what you want. God hears all prayers and he is more interested in making you happy.
May you find peace in your home.
Remain hale and healthy dear. God bless you.

A second reply from our team member:

Why should a woman want to loose weight when her husband doesn't want it. Who is she looking good for?
I mean it's crystal clear that the man says you are  hotter and sexier with the big boob's and backside. 
For me it's not up for debate.

You should do as your husband wants unless she has other intentions.i don't get it your husband likes it so why should you feel inferior 

Dear poster, hope you find answers from the 2 people that replied you,  also do note our readers will be dropping their advice in the comment section. 
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Word For Today - Fellowship With The Lord

Then you will seek Me, inquire for, and require Me [as a vital necessity] and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.
—Jeremiah 29:13

No matter how many principles and formulas you and I learn, we will never have lasting victory in our Christian life without spending time in personal, private fellowship with the Lord. The victory is not in methods; it is in God. If we are to live victoriously, we are going to have to look beyond ways to eliminate our problems and find the Lord in the midst of our problems.
Source: Joyce Meyer devotional book

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